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Is that wedding bells or the cash register ringing?

July 16th, 2006 at 07:05 am

We get to start wedding planning tomorrow. This should be fun, she says with only mild sarcasm. I want to get married, and I want to celebrate with my family and friends that day. I just don't understand why a one day celebration should cost me more than my car. At the same time, I don't want to seem 'cheap' and I don't want to look back and wish I'd done more, or better. I'd love to do a dessert reception, or a cocktail reception, however, that's just not what's done in this region. I'm not shallow, but I do care about the impression I make. I just don't get why $65/person gets you a chicken and pasta dinner for a wedding, and $50/person gets you the top of the line dinner choices for any other type of party. I understand a slightly higher cost for a wedding w/ the tasting, and the cake, but seriously. Am I crazy?

6 Responses to “Is that wedding bells or the cash register ringing?”

  1. Frugal Momma Says:
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    My sister has recently gotten engaged and I have been writing about some of their choices on my blog. It is not very frugal to have a wedding these days anymore.

    Congratulations on your recent engagement!

  2. Homebody Says:
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    My youngest daughter got married on July 4th. We had 13 days to plan.

    I just finished all my Quicken entries last night and it ran approximately $7500.00 for brunch for 90 people. That included all incidentals including the shower gifts and a $400.00 wedding night gift for them, pictures, everything.

    I wanted to keep it to $5000.00, but didn't quite make it, but still feel we did really well for 13 days.

    The wedding was here: http://www.arringtonapples.com/

    She did everything, flowers, cake, food and it was really lovely.

    We feel we were lucky and guess what, with so little time to plan and so grateful that Arrington had a spot I didn't care about little details, just so happy that both sides of the kids families pretty much changed their 4th of July plans to come to the wedding.

    No time for registering for gifts so they received money and so smart, opened a CD immediately.

  3. Carolina Bound Says:
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    You know, I got married in 1970 so maybe I just can't relate, but we had an "hor d'oevres" reception in my sister's home. We had the help of a friend who had lots of lovely silver and linens to share. It was lovely and I've never regretted it. (Did regret who I married, though, ha ha).

  4. ima saver Says:
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    I got married at home and we had a small party aftewards. everyone brought things to eat and we provided the liquor. We spent less than $200 and had a wonderful time. Everyone took pictures and gave them to us. We never regretted spending so little and have been married almost 30 years!!

  5. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    My social group tends to be really casual. My favorite receptions have all been pot-luck meals. The best ones were in mild weather and outdoors. Most have had folk music and dance, and while I don't dance, everyone else sure enjoyed it.

    Where I grew up weddings were formal, yet everyone including kids were invited to the short reception immediately following the wedding. There was never alcohol, but only punch, coffee, cake, and small dishes of mixed nuts or jordan almonds. No music, no dance, no cake smushing, no garter grabbing, no bouquet throwing, no meals, no toasts. The reception was all tame and low key. And no one had to risk their mortgage to pay for it all. Oh, there was a lot spent on the bride, groom, and attendants' clothing, but not so much on flowers, favors, decorations, etc. I don't think most people made full photo documentaries of their weddings, either. It was much simpler "back then," and "back there."

  6. retire@50 Says:
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    I was reading a magazine today called Smart Shopping, they had a bit in there about getting a preowned wedding dress for as little as $125, in case you are interested here's the website
    Text is preownedweddingdresses.com and Link is
    preownedweddingdresses.com

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